One of the boys with the shaven heads

The start of a brand new week, halfway into the month, the fresh slate of another phase in life.

Monday marks the day when the civilian title no longer belongs to him; when the government is now the major stakeholder in his life; when the green grassy fields and isolated island will become his home for the next few months. It will be a day where family is gathered to witness the ceremony of his becoming a national serviceman, the entry into a journey where many have tread and many are still finishing. The route which many hope to be over even before it has started. Conscription for a nation whose tiny physical size is overcompensated by the pyschological force of a army; for a people who hardly consider it their duty to protect the country which forced them into a state of stagnation for two full years.

The army and I never had much of an affinity; table conversations about my male university-mates’ forays into the jungle with their tanks and rifles hardly held my attention for long. Cameo painted faces and sweat stained uniformed soldiers were never much my idea of fun nor enticement. My mind often drifted off to other topics of greater holding power when the boys gathered around to brag or bitch about their days and ways of slacking in the army. I remember tuning out intentionally for the lack of interest and zealousness about the two years which many of my male friends claim were forcefully snatched from their lives. It contradicted with the fact that they were always so excited to discuss which batch and officer they had; which platoon they were in; the types of equipment they dealt with; and the ranks they managed to climb in the army of little green soldiers. I brought this dissonance up once; and the very logical reply to this contradictive nature of post-army boys was that although they hated army, the only thing they had for those couple of years and a few more months was, honestly and unfortunately, the army.

In short, it was never my intention to know very much about the army, except for the fact that I could gladly say I didn’t have the misfortune of being stuck in that situation. Now however, it seems to be moving closer to my heart. Ronald, my one and only brother, and really valued family member, will be moving to Pulau Tekong for his basic military training (BMT) this coming Monday. Enlistment is almost as important as passing out; because of the huge significant of the content between both events. I took a day off to watch this rite of passage, which for all boys growing up in Singapore, is a big deal, whether they like it or not. In a mere 2 days, Ronald will not be at home all the time, as he is now, so it feels weird to imagine what home will be like without his usual presence, even if he was cooped up playing the computer or surfing the net. No one to brag to me about his blog anymore; whose obsession with writing and drawing had the special power to irritate and inspire all at the very same time. Since the beginning of this year, I had started preparing for my brother’s entrance into army; and even now, I still find it hard to believe that the little brother of mine is now not so little any more.

I feel emotional just thinking about it; how time slides by without our knowing; a couple of minutes here, a couple of years there. My little brother has grown up. There is a photograph of me hugging my brother as we sat on the huge black armchair in our old house, he looked so chubby and small all at once; I look ridiculously happy hugging him; and he was grinning the house upside down. I suppose that was at least 17 years ago; but that picture captured a nostalgia of a bond which was formed so long ago, yet in the most recent years actually strengthened.

In the last couple of years, my brother became a good friend; family by chance, friend by choice. He was my writing muse, my fellow narcissist, equally proficient at being irritating as myself, and confidante. It was reassuring knowing he was there at home, even if we only talked to each other to bug the other to read our latest blog post. He became more recently, my jogging mate; my pacer, and one of my inspirations. Every family member I have has a special place in my heart; for their unique characteristics, and my brother has been a comforter, a fellow writer, a giver of advice.

I know the army is only temporary; but still it marks his turning into an adult; no longer the little chubby cheeky boy in the picture. I’m happy for my brother yet at the same time know I will be missing his previous almost always-there presence at home. But i know he’ll turn out into a fine young man; finer than he already is.